I like to tell you about the best Father’s Day gift you could ever get your dad (whether he’s alive or deceased like mine has been since 1988) and/or yourself for any occasion.
While I chronicle a good part of my life with my dad in my book, I never really spoke about what it took many years after his passing to accomplish – true forgiveness on my part.
Giving and especially accepting forgiveness, has been a real challenge for me for as long as I can remember. I suspect I’m not alone in that feat.
They say the memory is the “second” thing to go. Well as I zero in on 60 candles on my next birthday cake, I don’t remember the exact Father’s Day when I did it; but on one several years ago, I chose to write my father a “Forgiveness Letter.” Through the Grace of Almighty God, it was one of the best things I ever done in my life. Words alone will never begin to fully explain the joy and freedom gained by that meaningful act.
Chances are, you too need to write such a letter. It may be for a Father, Mother, family member, or someone else. I know the mere thought of doing so can cause veins to pop in your neck. The best “Father’s Day” gift to myself is to have penned this note and know someone, somewhere, will free themselves from the bondage of anger and hurt.
It’s been suggested that such a letter be written as follows:
1 – Accept Responsibility
Start with accepting responsibility for the relationship with the person you’re writing the letter to. Don’t victimize yourself, and don’t blame the other person for getting you in the situation you’re now in.
2 – Forgive Them For All They’ve Done
This is the real meat of the letter. This is where you forgive the person for all they have done. List out everything you forgive them for. Stay sincere with all you say and try not to be sarcastic.
3 – Wish Them All the Best
End your letter on a positive note by wishing them well, and expressing your sincere wish for a better future. If the person is deceased, just state it’s your wish to use this act to make today the first day of the rest of your life free from anger and bitterness.
“As a father has compassion on his children, so the LORD has compassion on those who fear him.” Psalm 103:13
Rudy Grandich and PG 1987